{"id":5745,"date":"2012-12-25T23:30:13","date_gmt":"2012-12-25T22:30:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kevinrechsteiner.com\/blog\/?p=5745"},"modified":"2012-12-26T03:31:14","modified_gmt":"2012-12-26T02:31:14","slug":"the-other-person-is-never-the-problem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kevinrechsteiner.com\/blog\/2012\/12\/25\/the-other-person-is-never-the-problem\/","title":{"rendered":"The Other Person is Never the Problem"},"content":{"rendered":"

Here\u2019s a short guide<\/strong>\u00a0to reacting peacefully:<\/p>\n

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  1. When you notice yourself getting offended, frustrated, angry, irritated, disappointed \u2026 pause. Take a breath.<\/li>\n
  2. Don\u2019t act. Acting in anger is harmful.<\/li>\n
  3. Examine the idea you have about how they should act. You are holding onto this idea, and it is in conflict with reality. As long as you hold onto fantasies that aren\u2019t in line with reality, you will be frustrated. Try changing all of reality to match your expectations \u2014 let me know when you finally succeed.<\/li>\n
  4. Toss your expectation into the ocean.<\/li>\n
  5. Smile. Accept the person in front of you, and yourself, as a flawed human.<\/li>\n
  6. Act with compassion. When you stop blaming the person for not acting perfectly, you can then respond appropriately, and with compassion. Accepting reality doesn\u2019t mean you don\u2019t take action \u2014 it just means you let go of the frustration. Instead, you can act appropriately, and be more centered in your actions.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    \u00fcber zenhabits<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Here\u2019s a short guide\u00a0to reacting peacefully: When you notice yourself getting offended, frustrated, angry, irritated, disappointed \u2026 pause. Take a breath. Don\u2019t act. Acting in anger is harmful. Examine the idea you have about how they should act. You are holding onto this idea, and it is in conflict with reality. As long as you […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5745","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-leben"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kevinrechsteiner.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5745","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kevinrechsteiner.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kevinrechsteiner.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kevinrechsteiner.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kevinrechsteiner.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5745"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/kevinrechsteiner.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5745\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kevinrechsteiner.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5745"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kevinrechsteiner.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5745"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kevinrechsteiner.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5745"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}